{"id":1,"date":"2021-11-21T21:45:25","date_gmt":"2021-11-21T21:45:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/box5426\/cgi\/addon_GT.cgi?s=GT::WP::Install::EIG+%28sciendr7%29+-+10.0.87.60+%5BWordpress%3b+\/var\/hp\/common\/lib\/Wordpress.pm%3b+543%3b+Hosting::gap_call%5D\/?p=1"},"modified":"2021-11-24T04:23:14","modified_gmt":"2021-11-24T04:23:14","slug":"think-like-thermostat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifecoach180.org\/?p=1","title":{"rendered":"Think Like a Thermostat"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\"\"Think Like a Thermostat, <\/strong>involves self control and the ability to regulate the environment versus the environment and behaviors of others regulating you.<\/span><\/p>

\u201cThe biggest challenge to self control is self-regulation.\u00a0 Successful people know how to make their emotions their servants rather than their master\u201d, shares Dr. Paul TP Wong.(1)<\/a>\u00a0 \u201cWhen you react, you let others control you. When you respond, you are in control.\u201d(2) Bohdi Sanders <\/a><\/p>

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Thermostat versus a Thermometer<\/span><\/p>

A thermostat can regulate and control an environment but by contrast a thermometer responds to the environment.\u00a0 The hotter a room , the higher\u00a0 the number indicating temperature will be. Similar to our emotions, when we enter into an environment that is heated our emotions can rise based on what is perceived.\u00a0 This response is not under control but just like a thermometer easily detected.<\/p>

A t<\/span>hermostat has the ability to regulate the\u00a0 environment and control the temperature of a room.\u00a0 It can also set the desired temperature.\u00a0 Thermostats can also detect how warm or cool the environment is and regulate the temperature using a <\/span>bimetallic strip<\/span> (3),which bends depending on the temperature change. \u00a0 Similarly we have the ability to remain positive when others choose to be negative.\u00a0 In the midst of stress and conflict we can bring resolve by tapping into a kind word or compassionate statement.\u00a0 Instead of allowing our emotions to drive us we can shift the gears in our thought process just like regulating the desired setting in a thermostat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

Cars also regulate heat by allowing the thermostat valve to open which allows coolant to circulate and keeps the engine cool. \u201cAs it functions as a valve, the\u00a0thermostat\u00a0has 2 positions: open and closed. When the valve is in the open position, coolant is able to flow through it, which lowers the engine’s temperature(4)\u201d<\/a>.\u00a0 We have the same ability to keep calm when a situation gets heated; simply open up your mental valves and share with others when you feel frustrated about issues that overheat you.\u00a0 Remember the danger lies when you keep it bottled up inside which allows pressure to build up.<\/p>

Early in my marriage I thought the answer of bringing resolution to any argument was to give my wife the silent treatment.\u00a0 In essence that was my coolant of choice,\u00a0 The problem I faced was my wife was better in outlasting me in silence for days at a time than I was. \u00a0 This would drive me absolutely insane as the hours ticked away and the solitude was unbearable.\u00a0 I used a cooling method from generations passed that I didn\u2019t realize I was trained in.\u00a0 I never considered my coolant because I truly didn\u2019t know myself and what was imbedded in me as the default.\u00a0 Have you considered your coolant and go to method when you are frustrated?<\/p>

\"\"We need to move away from the\u00a0 thermometer which can only respond and make us aware of what is happening in the environment or setting.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t have the ability to change what is happening but responds.\u00a0 As the temperature of the room rises the thermometer will also rise.\u00a0 In essence, it has no control over the environment but simply rises and falls based on the environment or atmosphere.\u00a0 Just like a thermometer we can quickly get frustrated when problems arise based on the environment.\u00a0 For example if someone cuts us off, we quickly respond with crude remarks and insults.\u00a0 The negative choice of someone else has caused us to respond back in a negative way just like a thermometer.\u00a0 Similar to my silent treatment, it only occurred during my frustration as a result of the heat being turned up.<\/p>

A thermostat would consider\u00a0 the surroundings of the other person.\u00a0 It isn\u2019t about you but what possible positive outcomes could be considered.\u00a0 What if I instead gave my wife the silent treatment considered what I did to possibly get her upset?\u00a0 What if I embodied what Paul the Apostle said to the\u00a0 Ephesians, \u201cHusbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 ).\u201d Jesus considered such a great love for us that He didn\u2019t give us the silent treatment but \u201crather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness (Philippians 2:7).\u00a0 Why? so He could feel what we feel; hurt like we hurt to better understand us.\u00a0 What happens when we become willing to take on empathy for others and step into their shoes.\u00a0 What would have happened early in my marriage if my coolant would have been the same coolant that was brought to us by a loving Heavenly Father who was willing to give up His only son to not only save us but to understand our infirmities (pains, hurts, anxiety).\u00a0 When you become a thermostat you long to understand others and manage the feelings of others.\u00a0 It takes work but consider you become the calming factor and remain cool.<\/p>

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