{"id":503,"date":"2022-03-19T02:51:19","date_gmt":"2022-03-19T02:51:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifecoach180.org\/?p=503"},"modified":"2022-03-23T01:38:51","modified_gmt":"2022-03-23T01:38:51","slug":"be-crystal-clear-with-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifecoach180.org\/?p=503","title":{"rendered":"Be crystal Clear with Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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One of the biggest challenges we have during conversation is how affective can we be with being clear with our directions.\u00a0 <\/span>According to Proverbs 22:6 it states \u201cTrain up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.\u201d The question remains are we truly presenting the way and providing clear expectations how to get there. We assume we do a good job but what we expect gets lost with either being extremely emotional with the request or we expect the other person is a mind reader.\u00a0 <\/span>Consider the out come in both situations because this\u00a0 <\/span>only leads to frustration by both individuals.\u00a0 <\/span>Let\u2019s consider the emotional response and the mind reader response<\/b> in a scenario: The scene is, Tom arrives home late once again and his parents have been worried sick.\u00a0 <\/span>They are frustrated because after many warnings,\u00a0 change has not occurred.\u00a0<\/i><\/u> Take some time to compare both of responses.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Moms fuming, \u201cwhere have you been? It\u2019s 10:00 and you were not home!\u201d She gasps, \u201care you crazy or do you even care?\u201d Slamming the door behind she explodes, \u201cyou must be crazy boy, do you realize how dangerous the streets are?\u201d \u201cGo to your room.\u201d Tom tried his best, \u201cbut mom.\u201d She goes off again, \u201cdon\u2019t but mom me, I am going to hand you your butt.\u201d With the final ax of anger dropping down as to split him in half, \u201cnow go to your room!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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\u201cWhat is it that you don\u2019t understand,\u201d she fumes. \u201cYou should be here by 10:00,\u201d she goes on. \u201cBut mom,\u201d Tom states, \u201cI thought it was ok to get here by 10:30.\u201d He further goes on to share, \u201cI have arrived late at this time before and it wasn\u2019t a big deal.\u201d Mom goes on, \u201cyou should know better son and see how it has been upsetting me.\u201d She goes on heated as to erupt like a volcano, \u201cyou are not sensitive to my feelings because every time you come late I have to stay up waiting for you just to hear the door unlock.\u201d \u201cNow go to bed and don\u2019t do it again!\u201d Storming up the stairs as her son is left with the fumes of her emotions.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Create Smart Goals<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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Let\u2019s take action to avoid these interactions and reduce frustration with clear expectations by creating S.M.A.R.T. goals.  SMART goals are used in business to meet a goal but serve well how we can provide clear expectations in our relationships as well as with our children. <\/p>\n