Today discover mental head tricks you might fall prey to if you are not careful.  Tommy Newberry breaks down 9 games to recognize that can be self destructive in relations.  

In Philippians 4:8 clearly communicates we should dwell on the things that are uplifting; dwell on the things that are working; dwell on the things that are worthy of praise but frequently we dwell on just the opposite of what Paul was referring to and this exceedingly practical passage from the New Testament.

“When you find yourself emotionally low you can be pretty sure that you’ve been dwelling on what’s not working.  In this low state, your mind plays tricks on you. If you’re trying to implement the 4:8 principle, it is very important to start noticing your emotions and how they spiral quickly upward or downward”(Newberry).

Today I pulled some notes from Tommy Newberry in his book the 4:8 Principle Secrets of a  Joy Filled Life.

Newberry shares, “only when you notice changes in your emotional life can you begin to rise above the passive choices that feel negative emotions.” “Some negative thoughts stand out more than others; these really awful thoughts that’s what he calls them. Or R.A.T.s for short terrorize your potential for joy,” he further explains. Today we’re going to breakdown nine head games that we might be playing with our minds.

  1. First one is an amplifier this type of individual magnifies unpleasant situations with recurrent use of extreme words like always, never, no one, and every time. They tend to distort things the statements that they use tend to plummet below the joy zone.
  2. Number two, feelers, this type of individual accepts negative feelings as true without even questioning them it’s dangerous to be a feeler because emotions are what you call distorter or distortions of what we think when in reality they might not be what it really is.
  3. Guessers– this type of individual pretends they know what other people are thinking and then they assume the worst ahead of time.  These individuals often trigger an emotional response from other people which in turns gets them defensive. So they fuel the fire.  They might say something like she pride isn’t really care about you that’s why you guys were arguing.
  4. Exaggerators, these individuals transform molehills into mountains with trigger words like horrible, worst, ruin, shock, devastated, stunned, and outraged these individuals are what you call drama Queens.
  5. Identifiers- these individuals inject harmless events with personal meaning. They overstate how the event is related to them. They take things too personally and interpret negative events as personal attacks. For example, if you get caught in traffic and you spill your coffee on your leg, you might think this other person had it out for you.
  6. Forecasters these individuals predict the worst case scenario. They say things out loud and usually before they even get started participating in activity, they’re solving your problem or engaging in an important conversation.  For example they might say, The only reason you’re going to that meeting is because the boss is probably going to fire you.
  7. Cynics- they have a knack for finding something wrong even if it’s the only thing wrong. So they’re trying to find that needle in the haystack of what has gone wrong. Their reward is that they get to be more miserable. For example your spouse may have 10 qualities that are amazing but you tend the nitpick at the one that she needs to work on.
  8. Blamers- these individuals point the finger at someone else for their own problems. Blame is popular because it’s temporary and it liberates.. It gives you a short term emotional fix, you feel better for the time being however blaming others is ultimately immobilizing. It’s going to hold you back.
  9. Justifiers- these people remind themselves of all the reasons why they are entitled to this negative emotion or that negative outburst they advocate for their own negativity. If you only knew what he did or I deserve to be upset. They justify and then they whine and then they complain.

Tommy Newberry does a phenomenal job breaking down these nine games that we can play with ourselves. In order for you to grow you have to be self aware and extinguish them before they game gets out of control.

For more resources and depth of living the 4:8 Principles 

website: https://www.tommynewberry.com/the-48-principle

Book Resource: https://www.amazon.com/Principle-Secret-Joy-Filled-Life/dp/1414313047

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